May 6, 2010

It was inevitable...

...that I would do a Mother's Day post.

This will be my first Mother's Day as a mother. While I am still not "technically" Pie's mother, she is 100% my daughter. I have no idea what to expect from the day. I seem to have it in my mind that it will be transformative somehow. That it will be some badge of honor, some moment that will help dispel any lingering worry I have about the adoption. But I think it will likely be just another Sunday.

I've been thinking a lot about what kind of mother I want to be. For so many years having a child was such an abstract idea, such an impossible dream that I didn't really focus on the details of mothering. So during some of our late night conversations lately, I've been telling Pie what I'm thinking about that. Here's what I've come up with so far. I want Pie to think of me as a mother who is:

  1. unconditionally loving
  2. generous
  3. selfless
  4. fun to be with
  5. trustworthy
  6. worth looking up to
  7. funny
  8. supportive
  9. brave
  10. smart
  11. protective, but not smothering
  12. encouraging
  13. someone who is madly in love with her father
  14. wise
  15. the safest place in her world
All of these things, by the way, describe my mother perfectly. She is an amazing example of what mothering can be. So Happy (almost) Mother's Day to one and all. I hope that there will be as much love in your house on that day as there will be in mine.
*Me and Pie*

8 comments:

Finley and Oliver said...

What a beautiful post and what a lucky little girl your sweet Pie is. Enjoy your special day!

sara said...

Thank you F&O! It seems like a big check on the parents to-do list. I'm excited for it. Hope you have a fantastic day too!

Bronzed said...

That's a great list! Happy Mothers Day.

Cindy @ This Adventure, Our Life said...

What a beautiful beautiful post!! Pie is lucky to have such an incredible mother. I believe a mother is the one that cares and loves you unconditionally every day, not just/ only the person that gives birth to you. You seem like loving and caring parents to Pie, what a beautiful photo also.

sara said...

Thanks Cindy! I still can't believe how lucky I am to be her mom. I'm overwhelmed by it every day. Hope you have an awesome Mother's Day!

Truthful Mommy said...

COngratulations, what a lucky little girl Pie is! Thanks for following. I am following back!
Debi (Truthful Mommy)
http://motherhoodthetruth.blogspot.com/

Anonymous said...

I hope that your day was a transformation for you...just know that transformation comes in so many different ways...for example, when I smiled at you as you were holding your sleeping daughter, that was transformative to me and hopefully to you.....you transform me in so many ways so many times, some when you don't even know it...take today for example, I just read what you said about me, I cried happy tears and felt transformed....my favorite way to be transformed by you is when you make ma laugh so hard I can hardly breathe...I love those times....you will have these moments and so many more with my granddaughter....know that I love you and could not be happier that you have your beautiful daughter.....you are an offical mother in every sense of the word...ymly

sara said...

Just so everyone knows...anonymous is my mom. See what I mean about her being awesome?! I love you mama...ydly

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