Unofficial Mom: I need help...

October 25, 2010

I need help...

Okay...so say, hypothetically of course, that you adopted a baby.

And say that you had an open adoption.

Also that you have a grapevine-y way to hear what's up with the bio parents.

Would you keep tabs?

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Grace · 753 weeks ago

I'd like to say, that I wouldn't keep tabs. But I know myself better than that and I would absolutely keep tabs in a grapevine-y sort of way - I don't think I could help myself.

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Salt · 753 weeks ago

I voted yes because I am incredibly nosy. But you also have pretty hair.

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jessica · 753 weeks ago

well, i am very nosy, so i likely would. But isn't that the point of an open adoption? So that they can get updates on the baby and such? At least thats what i gather from movies. which could be all wrong. but if thats the case, wouldn't you keep in touch with them with pictures and letters or something? maybe im completely naive. eh. oh well. In any case, I'm nosy, so I probably would.

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Christy · 753 weeks ago

In an open adoption doesn't that mean that they are still part of your baby's life? and it's always good to know whats going on with the people in your child's life ... even if they are the birth parents, so I totally vote yes. and I just like to know what's going on at all times, lol.

good luck!

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Kristin · 753 weeks ago

Oh I would totally keep tabs! I'm not above admitting that! :) Especially given the nature of the relationship, if they wanted a relationship with my son, it would be up to me as his mom to decide if that was a good thing or not. It would be tempting to use it as leverage though, I suppose, as much as I'd like to say that it wouldn't be.

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Kristin · 753 weeks ago

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finally Mom · 753 weeks ago

of course I would. i need to be up in everyone's business as much as I can (w/out them knowing it of course). :D

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Brandi · 753 weeks ago

Yep, big time nosy here. I'd definitely keep tabs... ya know, on the DL. ;)

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Meg · 753 weeks ago

Part of me would want to keep tabs. The other part wouldn't. The part of me would would probably win. I'm an information whore. LOL

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Crisc · 753 weeks ago

Sara I got my gifts today and I LOVE it..I have the shirt on as we speak =) Thanks so much!!!

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swistle 57p · 753 weeks ago

TOTALLY I would keep tabs. Totally.

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amy_agoodlife 33p · 753 weeks ago

i totally would! voted "yes." :)

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Cindy A 68p · 753 weeks ago

I would say yes, especially if it was an open adoption or if they were EVER going to see the baby....If they had nothing to do with or were not seeing the baby I would try not to... but I know this is totally easier said than done.

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Jenny · 753 weeks ago

I am quite possibly the nosiest person that you would ever meet, not that that is a good thing, but I would definitely keep tabs. Besides, if anything is happening that could potentially cause harm to Pie, as her mom, you need to know.

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Ashlee · 753 weeks ago

I say yes. But only because my parents adopted 3 kids and keep tabs on the parents. My parents feel it's important for them to know information in case my siblings ever have any questions and they feel it would be ok to answer said questions. Plus, they like to know where they are and how they are doing so if the kids ever want to find their Bio parents they can help be part of that for support.

So if it were me, I'd like to know what they were up to and how they are doing.

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--K · 752 weeks ago

I would keep tabs but totally lie about it and pretend like I wasn't. I'm fun and I'm trying to convince Boyfriend to take a pic of my tree tattoo as its in a location that makes it hard for me even to see.

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Michelle Pixie · 752 weeks ago

I say yes but I am nosey and a little bit of a control freak!

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Kristy · 752 weeks ago

I honestly just could not predict how I would behave in this situation. It would be too hard to imagine!

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ashley · 752 weeks ago

Ooo how hard! when it really came down to it, I'm SURE I would keep tabs--too hard not to.

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Mom · 752 weeks ago

My Darling Daughter, it saddens me to see you so unhappy and so hurt. My first thought is to go get the bad guys but then I remember the good news.....you!. You are so strong and so smart, this can hurt for awhile but not for long because you know exactly what you need to do in your head and in your heart. Take it away from you personally and think of what you would tell someone else if they were in this situation, then do that because what ever you said to them would be right. My faith is in you Sweet girl. ymly