July 21, 2010
July 20, 2010
The good, the bad, and the about to get ugly in here
THE GOOD:
Drama Mama over at The Scoop on Poop, passed this lovely award onto me today. Ahhh, these things make me happy...lovin' the love. So thank you DM, your scoop and your poop are beyond compare.Take a minute and check for yourself. Seriously. Do it.
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THE UGLY:
I was reading a post out in bloggy land about adoption. The general sentiments of the writer were that adoption was selfish, that the only really selfless choice is to parent or abort, and adoption in general was tantamount to abandonment. The post goes on to comment that any adoptive parent who might have sympathy for a birth parent is simply faking to get their greedy, grubby hands on a baby to fill their desperate and barren life.
Whew. I don't normally get into stuff like this. I really think to each his own...everyone has the right to their opinion. HOWEVER, if you put your opinion out into the universe you must also be prepared to have others comment. My comment is WTF! Seriously...WTF?!
I cannot, no matter how I try to frame it, think of this point of view as anything other than bitter and wildly skewed. I am not making any political or social commentary about what I think of abortion, but the fact that there are people (the writer and many, many commenters) who believe that it is preferably to adoption, and that adoption is not a viable and valuable choice floors me. There are thousands upon thousands of families created through adoption. Loving people who have a child/children because of it, and children who now have families and homes because of it.
I am not naive. I know there are plenty of adoptions that don't go well, for the family or the child. I know there are people out there who adopt and then send the kid back to Russia with a note that he's too hyper. I know that. But for every one story like that, there are hundreds or thousands like my own. There are also adoptive parents who do care for the well being of the birth parents. While we can have sympathy, we cannot have empathy...unless we've gone through the situation on both sides. I get being bothered by someone saying, "Oh I know exactly how you feel" because they likely don't. But what's wrong with someone saying. "this has got to be hard/sad/confusing/etc for you and I'm sorry for that"?
I'm actually shaking I'm so, I don't even know, pissed...shocked...saddened...by this. I really don't know what else to say about it. I just can't fathom having that point of view...
Sorry this one was so long. I apparently had quite a bit to say :-D
Drama Mama over at The Scoop on Poop, passed this lovely award onto me today. Ahhh, these things make me happy...lovin' the love. So thank you DM, your scoop and your poop are beyond compare.Take a minute and check for yourself. Seriously. Do it.
Ok so here are the fun parts...passing it on and 7 things about me...
Jenny at Yankovich 6 Pack
Brittany at Unexpected Surprises
Chelsea Rebecca at TRIUMPHS and blunders of a KOOKY gal
Lindsey at This is our life
Katie at The Nerdy Katie
Andra at The Domestic Project
Ian at THE DAILY DOSE OF REALITY
Kady at Take A Mom's Word For It
Brandi at My Three Bubs
Dandee at My Favorite Things
1. I watch a lot of tv. Really a lot of tv. I suppose it's dropped off some since the arrival of Pie though. I love lamp. I mean...I love tv.
2. I love adult beverages of almost any kind...except spiced rum. Hell to the no on that one.
3. No matter how bad a movie is, if I've invested enough time in it (more than 20 minutes or so) I feel obligated to watch the end of it.
4. I dig a scruffy sort of dude. Think Dave Matthews, Paul Rudd, Seth Rogan. They only pretty boy I've been enjoying of late is Eric from True Blood. Yum.
5. I always knew I'd marry a man with an accent...I guess I should have been more specific. I was thinking European, I got Southern.
6. I refuse to go in natural bodies of water further than about calf level. I just can't make myself be in the same place as all kinds of unknown, possibly bite-y things that will touch me without my permission.
7. My favorite curse word changes frequently. At the moment it's balls. But you have to say it loud and all angry like...BALLS!
THE BAD:
This little girl has you all fooled. She looks sweet and innocent, but she is punishing me with a capital "P". We had 10 days together during vacation. It was bliss. We got home and went to court the next day. Then, I had to go back to work. Ever since she has made sure I know how unhappy she is with me. Deliberate turning away, stopping the smiles, the laughs...she's a stinker!
THE UGLY:
I was reading a post out in bloggy land about adoption. The general sentiments of the writer were that adoption was selfish, that the only really selfless choice is to parent or abort, and adoption in general was tantamount to abandonment. The post goes on to comment that any adoptive parent who might have sympathy for a birth parent is simply faking to get their greedy, grubby hands on a baby to fill their desperate and barren life.
Whew. I don't normally get into stuff like this. I really think to each his own...everyone has the right to their opinion. HOWEVER, if you put your opinion out into the universe you must also be prepared to have others comment. My comment is WTF! Seriously...WTF?!
I cannot, no matter how I try to frame it, think of this point of view as anything other than bitter and wildly skewed. I am not making any political or social commentary about what I think of abortion, but the fact that there are people (the writer and many, many commenters) who believe that it is preferably to adoption, and that adoption is not a viable and valuable choice floors me. There are thousands upon thousands of families created through adoption. Loving people who have a child/children because of it, and children who now have families and homes because of it.
I am not naive. I know there are plenty of adoptions that don't go well, for the family or the child. I know there are people out there who adopt and then send the kid back to Russia with a note that he's too hyper. I know that. But for every one story like that, there are hundreds or thousands like my own. There are also adoptive parents who do care for the well being of the birth parents. While we can have sympathy, we cannot have empathy...unless we've gone through the situation on both sides. I get being bothered by someone saying, "Oh I know exactly how you feel" because they likely don't. But what's wrong with someone saying. "this has got to be hard/sad/confusing/etc for you and I'm sorry for that"?
I'm actually shaking I'm so, I don't even know, pissed...shocked...saddened...by this. I really don't know what else to say about it. I just can't fathom having that point of view...
Sorry this one was so long. I apparently had quite a bit to say :-D
July 19, 2010
Compliments...given and received
1. This wraps up the rules of the award I got from Cris at GOODEness Gracious. A compliment given and passed on.
The Rules:
*Thank the blogger who awarded it to you.
(Thank you Cris!)
*Sum up your blogging philosophy, motivation, and experience using five (5) words.
(Pie, Husband, our life together - that was hard!)
*Pass it on to 10 other blogs which you feel have real substance.
C's Mommy at A Mommy's Dreams About Diapers and More
Chelsea at Adventures in Vandyland
Kayla at and Potato Makes Three!
Casey at Aubut Life
Erin at Dropped Stitches
Grace at Finley and Oliver
Elsie at Little Sprout Growing
Maria at Mom et al
Sam at Mom. Undecided
Rachel at The House of Burks
If you haven't checked all these fantastic blogs out, please take a minute and do so. Each is wonderful in its own unique way, and well worth the follow.
2. Pie and I were out running errands on Saturday. At Target, which I alternate between cursing and longing for, people stopped us in nearly every aisle. This doesn't usually happen, but little Pie was so happy and chatty that she was drawing lots of attention. Everyone who stopped us had lovely and kind things to say. About half of them had to ask whether Pie was a boy or girl first though. I would have thought the hot pink tank top was a clue...
The Rules:*Thank the blogger who awarded it to you.
(Thank you Cris!)
*Sum up your blogging philosophy, motivation, and experience using five (5) words.
(Pie, Husband, our life together - that was hard!)
*Pass it on to 10 other blogs which you feel have real substance.
C's Mommy at A Mommy's Dreams About Diapers and More
Chelsea at Adventures in Vandyland
Kayla at and Potato Makes Three!
Casey at Aubut Life
Erin at Dropped Stitches
Grace at Finley and Oliver
Elsie at Little Sprout Growing
Maria at Mom et al
Sam at Mom. Undecided
Rachel at The House of Burks
If you haven't checked all these fantastic blogs out, please take a minute and do so. Each is wonderful in its own unique way, and well worth the follow.
2. Pie and I were out running errands on Saturday. At Target, which I alternate between cursing and longing for, people stopped us in nearly every aisle. This doesn't usually happen, but little Pie was so happy and chatty that she was drawing lots of attention. Everyone who stopped us had lovely and kind things to say. About half of them had to ask whether Pie was a boy or girl first though. I would have thought the hot pink tank top was a clue...
3. I saw a family friend this weekend for the first time since Pie was born. I remarked that I still couldn't believe I was someone's mother. His response was, "I can. You were supposed to be someone's mom, and the world is a better place because you are." I wanted to cry. It was such a sweet thing to say, and such a boost when I'm not always sure about my parenting.
What about you guys? Any great compliments lately? Or comments that just made your day?
July 16, 2010
Still catching up...
1. Friday Follow and Blog Hop...
This week Friday Follow is hosted by the Mission Monkey Raffle Winner and Heather & Jessica from Saving Money Living Life .
Blog Hop Friday is hosted by My New Life As Mom, Chubby Cheeks Thinks, Take A Mom's Word For It, Bree Bee's, This Adventure Our Life and Belly Charms!
2. I got an award last week, they really are happiness in jpg form. This one is from Cris at GOODEness Gracious. Check her and Miss Add out as soon as you get a chance!!
The Rules:*Thank the blogger who awarded it to you.
(Thank you Cris!)
*Sum up your blogging philosophy, motivation, and experience using five (5) words.
(Pie, Husband, our life together - that was hard!)
*Pass it on to 10 other blogs which you feel have real substance.
(I will do this part over the weekend...grabbing all those urls right now seems WAY too complicated)
3. Next week is going to be all about vacation. In the mean time here's a little glimpse of the view from our room...it did not suck.
4. Sometimes you just have to keep your hands free for other things.
July 15, 2010
OFFICIAL Mom
UPDATED - Thank you all so much for your sweet and wonderful comments. You guys are the best!!!
On July 12, 2010 at 9:30 am Husband, Pie and I went before a judge and finalized our adoption.
On July 12, 2010 at 9:30 am Husband, Pie and I went before a judge and finalized our adoption.
July 13, 2010
Wordless Wednesday - Supermodel Edition
Really...that's how you're going to behave? We met all of your demands. Your room is filled with Similac Soy Formula scented candles, there are dozens of things that are either shiny or make a crinkle noise, and there are exactly 100 green M&Ms in alphabetical order. What's that? Yes, I know your parents sing you the ABC song every day and you'll totally know if they aren't in the right order. Seriously, don't be a diva.
Ah...that's the smile we've been waiting for...
Now play coy...
...And back to the smile....
Now blow kisses to the camera...what? Is that a confusing direction?
...You could at least pretend you're enjoying this...
Ah...that's the smile we've been waiting for...Now play coy......And back to the smile....Now blow kisses to the camera...what? Is that a confusing direction?...You could at least pretend you're enjoying this...For realz yo...
I'm still trying to get settled from the vacation madness and the unbelievable amount of work waiting for me when I got home. Fingers crossed we'll be back to our regularly scheduled programming tomorrow.In the mean time, make sure you check out Ericka at Alabaster Cow's guest post. And my guest post over there.
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